OK let’s start off with the fact that I subscribe to the law of attraction. If you don’t know what that is you can go ahead and look it up, but at its most basic it means that if you think it, you can believe it and if you can believe it you can attain it. That’s a super basic description, but you get the gist. The law of attraction is not wishful thinking hocus-pocus, You don’t just change the way you think and “poof” magically your life is transformed. In fact wishful thinking will get you nowhere. It’s fun, and could be a good way to get you started thinking about what you really want, but in the end nothing beats the hard work it takes to really get what you want. That doesn’t mean the law of attraction is not still at work all the time
The law of attraction can be simple, but you don’t get what you want just because you want it. Instead you get exactly what you believe you will get. How is that different? Well, let me tell you a little story.
I have a friend, we’ll call her Monica. Monica as always trying out new ways to make money, but only getting so far every time never really reaching the top. It’s not that she doesn’t work hard, in fact she sometimes work around the clock, doing all the things she thinks she needs to do to succeed. But in the end, she never quite gets there. After she leaves one job and moves onto the next, you’ll always hear her say it was the company, the atmosphere, the people in charge, the leaders, the distance, the specifics of what she had to do, or some other thing that caused her to leave and move on to something else. Because she felt like she worked really hard, she couldn’t possibly blame herself, it had to be some other reason.
I propose the reason is that Monica never BELIEVED she could do it. What she did believe was one of the following statements…
- I am the kind of person who jumps from job to job
- I am not lucky at work
- I make the wrong career choices
- Life is hard
- People just don’t like me
- I am not worthy
…or something else like that. These statements are true to her, no matter what other say or do for her, she won’t reach the top until she confronts her truth. We all have truths that we believe about ourselves. Some are great, and others not so good. Author Gary John Bishop writes about this in his book, Stop Doing That Sh*T calling our truths our “saboteurs.” He suggests that the things we truly believe about ourselves, about others and about life are the things that sabotage our success. It’s a great book if you haven’t read it, I recommend it!
The thing is these truths are ONLY true for the person who believes them, but just because she believes doesn’t mean they are real. With self work and perseverance, she can change the way she thinks. She can create new, more positive truths, and you can too.
If you find yourself struggling, take a minute to assess your thinking. What do you believe about the situation? What do you believe about yourself? If you can figure that out, then you can change it!
